Wednesday, 16 May 2012

Help, I 'm turning into one of those mums....!!

Heaven help me, who would have thought it? But it seems that I am slowly turning into one of those mums... You know those shouty mouthy mums who take their little darlings to their sports every week and then decide to shout at them and tell them how to play? In our case it’s the nearly 6 year olds first season of playing hockey. Its proper hockey with sticks and mouth guards and I am finding myself on the sidelines yelling at him “to hit the ball”, “watch the ball” and my favourite “what are you standing there for?”! So while I stand there getting all hot and bothered about it he is nonchalantly standing there, singing to himself or using his hockey stick as a ninja sword or light sabre.. Arrgghhhh!!!

Quite ironic really as I have been spending the last couple of weeks telling everyone about an annoying shouty dad at swimming! Who likes to yell in his very obvious accent (let’s just say he is from a very, very, large country in the north Atlantic!!) swimming instructions to his son while he is having a lesson.

Hmmm, what can I say other than “hello pot this is kettle”!!

To make matters even worse is that I have no idea what he should be doing as I have never played a game of hockey in my life. I have had to watch a few games (under duress I may add...), due to Mr P having played it since he was a nipper but that’s it! So not only am I the shouty mum shouting at her son I am also the shouty mum who actually has no idea what she is shouting about!!

How bad is that??

I suppose we can blame my slightly competitive nature, yes I like to win or to at least do well if I can’t win. So I want the same for my sons, I want them to do well, their very best.  I know the nearly 6 year old can do better, that he can actually hit the ball quite well, I just want him to do it on the field each week!  Mr P is quite relaxed about it all and thinks it will just sort itself out and the game will just click for him. I hope so and if it doesn’t then fine at least he tried...

My sister who watched his games last weekend was “polite” enough to point out that he is not the only one on the field looking like he can’t be bothered.  Mind you I don’t think the parents of the children she was pointing out where that impressed with her pointing this out!

So Mr P thinks it is best that I give the games a miss for the next few weeks.  Just so the nearly 6 year old can ease himself into the game without his fishwife of a mother shouting at him.  

Good news, it should give me enough time to read the hockey rule book......



9 comments:

Mammasaurus said...

Oh dear! I too have done this before - I never wanted to be a shouty 'GO GO GO!!!!' type of parent but it's amazing how quickly you can get caught up in these things!!!

Babes about Town said...

That's funny, and I appreciate your honesty on this one. Nobody wants to be the 'soccer mom', punching other parents on the sidelines.... but we can't ignore our competitive streak.

Although I'm quite laidback, I have to curb my instincts, especially as my eldest is very competitive and I'd only be adding fuel to his flames! x

Frankie Parker said...

Thanks ladies for stopping by.... I too thought i was pretty laid back about thinsg but apparently not...

Almost bedtime said...

Fortunately our girls aren't into any competitive team sports so we don't have to worry about this one yet. My husband's parents have tapes of my husband's old hockey games (ice hockey) and apparently all you can hear is his dad's voice yelling at him from the sidelines. I dread to think what he was yelling as we have never actually been allowed to watch the tapes :-) I wouldn't worry too much. I bet your son can't even hear you. You can't help being competitive and you can't help it if you want your child to play well. And your husband sounds like he has his emotions under control :-) Are you going to sit the next games out?

Frankie Parker said...

Hey, yeah think it is best to.. Just to give him some space and see what he does...

BavarianSojourn said...

More time to read the rule book and glue some more lego perhaps?!? :)

Rachel said...

You are brave to have tried hockey out. I can't be trusted around competitive sports (or much else for that matter). Good luck :)

Crystal Jigsaw said...

Lol, sounds like your son isn't too upset about you shouting to him!!

My sister took her 6yo daughter to her first swimming lesson at a new pool the other week (she started a new school after Easter) and because there were other kids there from her class, 6yo spent half an hour messing about. Sister was furious with her, couldn't speak for 2 hours!! I guess we sometimes need to chill a bit and remember they're only little!

CJ x

Frankie Parker said...

Hi CJ, think you are right our own expectations are so high we do forget they are only little...

Thanks for stopping by....